Dating Apps

Nicole Cueto

The essential dating apps in large cities

I’ve come to the point where my phone battery lasts longer than most relationships. As a thirty-something single girl living in New York City (or any city for that matter), dating hasn’t come without its challenges. Whether I’m getting catfished by someone on the other end of the screen or find myself having to fend off Stage 5 Clingers, trying to find a decent date these days is no easy feat. Between all these apps, social implications, and all other challenges associated with “finding your soulmate” in this modern world, this social activity is all over the map, and I’m not the only one who feels this way. Lucky for us, I’ve done my research (will share my personal experience), and have found the top five ways to meet your match.

Bumble – The brainchild of Co-founder Whitney Wolfe (former Tinder employee), this app is similar to Tinder in that you have to swipe left or right to match with or dismiss those you’re interested in, except when you do match, the woman has to make the first move. Survey says, people (men & women) love this approach! And I must say, the pool of candidates is far better than some of the other sites I’ve seen.

Tinder – Bumble’s predecessor, the “Swipe Left/Swipe Right” dating app sensation, first came on the market in 2012, registering more than 1 billion swipes per day by 2014. What was once considered a site primarily promoting hook ups, has now turned the corner, and I’ve got to say, I know several successful relationships that have come out of this digital dating app.

Match – One of the first kids on the block, this once website based only site was a more in-depth approach to digital dating requiring a lengthy profile and a more detailed approach to finding your perfect pair.

Instagram – While this might be the last place you’d think of meeting someone, just think, it’s a social media platform, there are pictures involved, and there is the ability to communicate. So yes, why not potentially use it as a place to meet people. And while you do have to be a bit impetuous to reach out and touch someone (so to speak), isn’t that what you do on all other dating apps anyway? Go ahead, start handing out that handle!

Real Life – Yes, you read right, real life. No, it’s not the name of a new app, it means going out into the world and meeting people the old fashioned way. You know, like a “Hi, what’s your name?” or asking friends to introduce you to someone. And while I know it’s hard for us “busy New Yorkers” to “get in the game” this way, there are plenty of people out there who are still fans of this approach, myself included. Sometimes, going “old school” is the way to go. Try it, you never know!

Of course, there are runner ups (Coffee Meets Bagel, Happn and The League), as well as niche apps targeting race, income and other sorts of preferences, but for those more basic folks, like myself, if you’re in the market for a new boo, I’d say use this as your “Dating App 101” tutorial and you’ll be in the dating game in no time. Happy Bumbling (or whatever method you choose)!

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